Its been a while huh? Well its not that DBE (DoucheBag Ex) hasn't been doing douchey things. He has, believe me. I just haven't been worked up enough over any of it to actually write it down. This installment though? Oh, yeah. Worked. Up.
Now DBE and I parted ways in 2009. It was my decision (no really) and there were honestly no major events (cheating) that caused the split. It was the nine million little (major) things that someone can do to drive you away to the point you are no longer dropping bread crumbs. Know what I'm sayin? Example: Yelling at me about spending money on groceries when he has just dropped $600 on a fantasy football league. Yes, that is a real example. I digress.
We split. I have never looked back in a missing him sort of way. I have moved on. He has moved on (see previous post about NEW). NEW is a thorn in my side. I expected her to be an asset. No such luck. She feeds the bullshit and I can see her handwriting all over it. Everything from typing emails for DBE to telling my children to call her parents "Grandma" and "Grandpa" (bitch, they gotta earn those stripes!).
Yesterday, June 1st. Big day. My parents celebrated their forty-sixth wedding anniversary (yay parents!). June first is also the anniversary of a couple of other formerly big days in my life. Mine and DBE's first date and the day he proposed. Now, I don't celebrate these events any longer. But I do hold the events out as part of the story of our life together. They were significant events and I imagine my daughter and maybe son will one day want to know the story of how their father and I happened to find one another. I'm cool with that. I'm cool with not painting that time in my life in the light in which I view it. I would let my children believe that they were gifted to us with all the pomp and circumstance of unicorns at Buckingham Palace. You know, not that we were in New Orleans for a football game and mommy had too many hurricanes at Pat O'Brien's.
The pomp and circumstance got tarnished today. I knew it was coming. It still packed a punch though. Today DBE and NEW got "married". Really they got engaged and married in the same week in November, but today was the dog and pony show. Now, if you pull out a calendar today is Thursday (what?), June 2nd. Thursday is a weird day to get married, no? I have no idea why this date was chosen. As a friend (Denise!) pointed out, if it were a Saturday and its a June bride thing, I get it. But... its Thursday. June 2nd also is not the same as June 1st, but its a little too close for comfort.Why this day? Why??
By all means I wanted them to have a ceremony and include the kids. She moved in very abruptly in November after they got married. They've been telling the world that they are engaged but TRUST I was not allowing anyone to move in anywhere with out some vows being exchanged. Today was the big event for everyone else. I think its very confusing for my kids. Are you married or not? Do you move in before the wedding? My kids are 5 and 7. Its just too early for them to learn about shacking up pre-marriage. Which, by the way, I'm honestly a fan of when kids are not involved.
I told my (super awesome) friends that I can't pretend to not be a little upset by the timing. I don't know if NEW has any idea about the date. I don't know if DBE even realizes the date has significance. Was it an intended slap in the face or did it just feel like one? Questions I won't be getting answers to. Mostly because it will be a cold day in hell before I ask.
Is it silly to want to keep some cornerstones of that relationship intact? It seems that if its not silly it is at least unrealistic. I continue to revamp my expectations where the ex and co are concerned. I guess I'm going to lower the bar all the way down. Then it won't surprise me when these things happen.
I ask you though, if you were her, wouldn't you want to know the day was your's and your's alone? She already lives in a house I picked out. Sleeps in a bed I bought. The flowers in the yard, I planted. My daughter is the spitting image of me (though much cuter). Now she is marrying (again) the husband I discarded. I would have at least insisted on a date that was special. But thats just me...
Want the funny part? NEW actually had a bachelorette party complete with light-up penises!! OMG. Stop. Its a second marriage for her too and DUDE!!!! YOU ARE ALREADY MARRIED!
BAHAHAHAHHA!
Congrats idiots!!! Enjoy.
